I’ve been home the past week. Just home, working when I can and resting when I can because I have a situation going on with my neck/back. Sitting up for too long – let alone sitting in front of a laptop – has been adding stress, so the doctor ordered me to just relax.
There’s something about idle time that I missed, but that I realize now I also disliked. It reminded me a lot of maternity leave when I was starting to wander around the internet for far too many hours and comparing myself to far too many strangers. I mean, the internet is such a great place to find inspiration and drive from people, but at some point – let’s face it – it’s easy to start comparing. I found myself doing that a little too much this week.
I think myself along with many women feel the need to improve constantly, or we’re constantly facing internal battles that drive us to improve and/or compete. Some battles are small, some big, while some of us actually get through every day just fine, and some are barely keeping their heads above water. I can cover all 4 depending on life, and sometimes depending on the day of the week. I’m keeping it real, guys.
Sometimes I find myself comparing to complete strangers and sometimes it’s to people I actually know. The thoughts begin to permeate my mind. My home doesn’t look as pretty. I wish I was that fit. My dinner is rarely presentable and/or organic. I could never travel as much as they do. I wish I had that kind of money and/or financial help from family. Then you find me wanting to crawl into a ball and wonder why my life isn’t on par with others.
Ridiculous! It’s ridiculous, guys. This notion of comparing through social media. Comparison – by any means – is the thief of joy. I’m 99.9% sure everyone has gone through it. Social media just tends to breed this being that it is truly the highlight reel of most of our lives, and I think that’s something we need to remind ourselves of. It’s the highlight reel.
Taking steps away from the interweb browsing, I know that I am so ridiculously happy with my life and so, so fortunate. Seriously. It is by no means “perfect,” but it is by far perfect for me. My husband and my son – I don’t even know what I did to deserve them. My home is sweet, simple, and oh-so-cozy, just the way I like it. I love that I don’t spend extra time making picture perfect meals (who has time for that??). And, honestly, I like my comfy sweats and old cotton tees.
So, this is just me telling you to not let yourself compare. Don’t. Don’t fall into that trap. Social media can be a blessing or a curse. If someone you follow makes you feel “less than” vs. inspired, unfollow. What is most important is that you and I create a positive space for ourselves. Remember, remember, remember to be kind and give yourself grace. If you find yourself on an account that makes you feel any less than you actually are, take a step back and remind yourself of your beautiful life, of your blessings that are REAL, and of all of your true potential.
I just felt compelled to write this because sometimes even I need the reminder. If you’re wondering why I don’t quit social media, it is – at the end of the day – a great community. I learn a lot from people and I’m inspired everyday by wonderful moms and photographers alike. I can comfortably say that it’s just natural to be distracted sometimes – particularly for me when I have too much time on my hands.
I’m sure there is already so much joy in your life. Don’t let comparison take that away from you <3